Dear Gail:
On a recent date an otherwise quite attractive woman exclaimed to the waiter “What the F happened to our salads?” Admittedly the service was slow but her tone seemed rude and extreme. My attractive date got less so with each” F” bomb. Bottom line that was our last date.
The gratuitous F to make one seem stronger only makes one weaker. The word has become a point of contention with me and the women I date
WTF, no wonder I'm still single!
Frank W
Dear Frank:
What a coincidence! Last night I was watching “Succession” re-runs and literally the “f” word is the anchor tenant of every sentence. It would be a fun statistic to know how many times “fuck” is said in each episode. At least the writers don’t have to ever use a Thesaurus. Honestly I have no idea what the “fuck” they are talking about most of the time, but love the show.
I understand your sentiment but admittedly I use that word more than I care to confess. It’s an easy exit out of a sentence, no Thesaurus needed. You can express every thought in that one simple syllable. It’s ironically amorphous. In a nano-second it flies out of my mouth and covers so much emotional territory it’s almost thrilling. My nephew started saying “for crying out loud” which was a fun and sassy substitute but it never imprinted in my brain. I forgot it within hours. Kudos to him however.
Frank, is it more inappropriate or unacceptable for women to use the “f” word than men? Are you gender specific in your accusation because I think it’s an equal opportunity verb. I do not believe I have ever refused to see a man again if he said “fuck” on our date. I have a multitude of other more valid reasons to ixnay a man : pant length, socks with sandals, bad hair dye or comb over, to name just a very few.
The next time “fuck” jumps out of my mouth I will remember your letter but that won’t stop it.
And I agree, never “f” bomb the waiter.
Anyone have insight on the frequency of the f word in other languages? Is its profusion an American trait? Do other languages adapt it to all grammatical forms - noun, adjective, adverb etc ( often in the same sentence) and we even insert it into the middle of words - unf-ing believable !
I am guilty of using the F word. I make no apologies for it and everyone who knows me well, knows how much it comes out of my mouth. Having said that, I never use it in public places. I loved your comment about the thesaurus! You always make me smile!